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When “Later” Feels Safer: Why You Keep Postponing Your True Voice
Most people who struggle with speaking anxiety already know it. They tell themselves they’ll work on it eventually. When the schedule clears. When life slows down. When they feel more ready. But somehow, that moment never comes. You’ve learned to live around this fear. But every so often, something important happens that asks for your voice, and you feel that same tightening in your body. You remember why you stayed quiet before. And again, you say, “Not now.”
The Real Reason You Freeze When It’s Your Turn to Speak
Your mind can be full of clear, well-formed thoughts. You may have even rehearsed exactly what you want to say. But the moment the attention lands on you? Your chest feels tight, your voice becomes quieter than you intended, and the words you had ready suddenly disappear.
This experience has nothing to do with a lack of ability. It’s your body doing what it learned to do: protect you.
Tiny Steps, Big Victories: A Graduated Approach to Overcoming Speaking Anxiety
Speaking anxiety can feel like a wall you can’t climb. It’s not just the act of speaking—it’s the fear of judgment, the vulnerability of being seen, and the lingering doubts about your own voice. Many people struggle with this, and it’s easy to stay silent to avoid discomfort. But what happens when silence keeps you from opportunities, relationships, or sharing the things that matter most to you?
The Words You Didn’t Say: How to Stop Replaying Silent Moments
We’ve all been there. Walking away from a moment knowing we should’ve said something but didn’t. What follows isn’t just regret. It’s a loop of replaying the scene, analyzing what went unsaid, and wondering what’s wrong with us. Those silent moments can feel like...
The Spelling Bee and the Inner Being: How Childhood Moments Shape Our Presence
Some childhood memories don’t just fade. They take root. And over time, they quietly shape how we show up in the world, especially when it comes to using our voice.
One client shared a memory with me. A simple school spelling bee. She made a mistake, and what stayed with her wasn’t the error itself but the cold, disappointed look on her mother’s face. That brief moment etched itself into her memory. It told her: Your voice is not safe here.
Public Speaking Isn’t Just for Stages: It’s for Life
I used to think public speaking meant standing on a stage, delivering a polished speech to an audience that hung on every word. It felt like something reserved for experts, for people with important things to say. It certainly wasn’t something for everyday life.
Finding Your Voice: How Community Transforms Anxiety into Confidence
Anxiety around expressing yourself—whether in conversations, relationships, or creative pursuits—can hold you back from fully sharing who you are. But what if you didn’t have to face this alone? One of the most powerful ways to overcome self-expression anxiety is by engaging with a supportive community. Whether it’s a peer group, an online forum, or a creative circle, connecting with others who understand your challenges can help you find your voice and step into confidence.
What’s Holding You Back From Telling Your Story?
We all have stories—moments that shaped us, lessons we’ve learned, and experiences that linger in our hearts. These stories are deeply personal, and sharing them can feel overwhelming, even a little scary. You might feel a tug, a quiet voice inside urging you to share, but then the doubts creep in. You tell yourself, “It’s too personal,” or “It’s too painful,” or maybe even, “Who would care about my story anyway?” If you’ve felt this way, you’re not alone.
Your Voice Matters: Why It’s Worth Working Through Speaking Anxiety
That familiar rush of dread when your name is called in a meeting. The tremor in your voice as you muster the courage to speak in a group. Speaking anxiety has a way of holding us captive, silencing thoughts that long to be heard. If this resonates, you’re not alone. I’ve been there too.
Reflections of Your True Self: Rediscovering Confidence and Authenticity
When you look in the mirror, who do you see?
Often, our reflection reveals more than just a face—it holds the story of who we believe we should be and hints at the person we long to become.
If you’re someone who struggles with speaking anxiety or expressing your true voice, you may notice a gap between who you are and who you wish to be—someone who speaks with confidence, assurance, and authenticity.