When you look in the mirror, who do you see?

Often, our reflection reveals more than just a face—it holds the story of who we believe we should be and hints at the person we long to become.

If you’re someone who struggles with speaking anxiety or expressing your true voice, you may notice a gap between who you are and who you wish to be—someone who speaks with confidence, assurance, and authenticity.

This hesitance to speak up often stems from long-held fears, formed in moments when it felt safer to stay quiet or unseen. But what if you could learn to see yourself as someone whose voice matters?

The Journey to Finding Your True Voice

In my work, I help people find their authentic voice, especially those who have struggled with speaking anxiety or fear around expressing themselves. This journey starts with acknowledging our fears and showing compassion to the parts of ourselves that feel unseen. Through mindful self-reflection and understanding, we can begin to shift the way we see ourselves, making room for a voice that feels natural and grounded.

Finding your voice isn’t about forcing confidence or pushing through fear. It’s about gently uncovering what’s already there—your true self, waiting to be heard.

A Simple Reflection Practice to Nurture Your Voice

Here’s a practice that may help you connect with your true voice and cultivate confidence. Begin by finding a quiet moment to stand in front of a mirror.

Take a few deep breaths, grounding yourself in the present. As you look at yourself, ask, “What parts of me do I tend to hide?” and “If I could speak freely, what would I want to say?”

This practice isn’t about pushing past discomfort but about gently exploring what’s there. Take a moment to notice what feelings or thoughts come up. You might find yourself reconnecting with parts of yourself you’ve ignored or silenced over time.

Next, place a hand on your heart, take another deep breath, and offer yourself a word of encouragement—something simple like, “I am here for you” or “Your voice matters.”

This exercise is about nurturing a compassionate relationship with yourself, allowing you to see your true voice as something worth sharing.

Embracing Self-Compassion to Overcome Speaking Anxiety

Learning to speak with confidence and authenticity doesn’t mean silencing all fears. Instead, it involves acknowledging these fears with kindness and creating space for your true voice to emerge naturally.

Self-compassion is key here—when you approach yourself with acceptance, you begin to trust in your own voice, allowing it to grow.

So, the next time you look in the mirror, take a moment to see yourself with compassion. The person you see deserves to be heard, not because they’re perfect, but because they’re real.

Speaking confidently starts with embracing who you already are. And when you speak from this place of authenticity, others are drawn to listen—not because of polished words, but because of genuine connection.